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Workplace: Break The Tradition And Say "No" Bravely.

2008/12/13 14:35:00 41915

Chinese parents most like gentle and obedient girls, but, just like the saying "three girls are stupid."

Workplace

A good girl often needs to face some.

Interpersonal relationship

And work Perplexity: I hope everyone likes himself. He will be self reproach and be depressed all day if he has a slight mistake. He is not good at communication and cooperation, he will not refuse others' requests, be exhausted and inefficient.

These ones here

Workplace

Where is the wrong girl?

Zhang Xichao, an associate professor of psychology at Beijing Normal University, points out that the characteristics of a good girl are called "compliant" or "pleasing" in psychology.

From the perspective of interaction psychology, these people are not mature enough to belong to the self state of "obedient children".

The reason for this is that, first of all, many people have been given family education since they were "obedient to sugar eating". The concept of "obedience" has been constantly strengthened in their minds. Some people are too shy to challenge others. Such people not only dare to express their opinions in their work units, but also in their families or friends' circles, and can only yield to others. Besides, social culture has a certain effect on the formation of good girls.

So how can a good girl get out of her career?

bottleneck

"What?

"In fact, the workplace women who always play the good cards can be a bit more pungent."

Zhang Xichao suggests that you should first confirm your true feelings and try to express your true feelings to your leaders and colleagues.

He told the reporter a true story: a female secretary was unable to bear the enormous pressure of work and was going to resign. She said that leaders always ignored her feelings and arranged more and more "odd jobs" for her. She was afraid of offending the boss and had to take all the bills and never dare to utter a word.

"I suggest that her resignation is not related to resignation, but it must be addressed to you.

Boss

Express your true feelings. You are busy and uncomfortable.

So the secretary did so, so the leader relieved her workload and everything became better.

Finally, Professor Zhang reminds female friends that love is impossible and irrational. It is the most important thing to establish self-confidence and let yourself like yourself.

Editor: vivi